Controversy

When facing controversy, check if it originates from a misunderstanding or faulty communications.

Disagreements and rivalry are created because people are very different from each other, and have different interests. In most disagreements and rivalries, no one side is absolutely the right one. There is always the other side of the coin. Therefore, before one party in the disagreement comes to a conclusion in the dispute, it is only right and proper they should consider and examine the other side's position, and ask themselves: Could the whole thing be a misunderstanding, an unfortunate mistake, a coincidence, an escalation of previous quarrels? Could the fault be the intervention of a third party?

Not all disagreements involve major issues; on the contrary. Some involve trivial insignificant issues that don't justify troubling with, and can be either solved, accepted, or ignored.

When facing controversy, avoid instant reaction. Take a deep breath, count to ten, calm down, and consider your moves wisely.

Consider calmly if the controversy is justified. If it really must lead to an all-out war, or perhaps it could be resolved in a quite and pleasant discussion.

Even if the controversy is substantial, remember that you can't be objective and consequently your conclusion might be too harsh. Therefore it's essential that you calm down.

Moderation is the key to efficiently and fairly resolving disagreements and rivalries. Make sure that your involvement does not lead you to violate the law.

Remember that extreme actions might be irreversible or escalate the situation even further. Your reactions can backfire and cause more harm than good.

A friend in need is a friend indeed. Good friend take the initiative and calm their friends, make them see the facts clearly, define the essence of the problem, and find a proper solution.

Being able to apologize or admit mistakes is a good and worthy trait. If you hurt anyone, be quick to apologize, express your regret, and make sure not to repeat it.

If your friend wishes to admit their mistake, apologize to you and express regret, accept it respectfully and pleasantly.

The right way to solve disputes is in the following order:

Have a direct and honest discussion. Your dignity will not be dented if you take the initiative to discuss the issue with the other side in an effort to find a solution.

Mediation by a mutual friend or acquaintance is a good option.

Always act within the limits of the law, especially when having a disagreement. Use legal steps such as personal boycott or involvement of a third qualified party. Always stick to the truth, and avoid incitement, slander or defamation unrelated to the dispute.

If you must resort to legal steps, start legal proceedings and sue for your honor, damages and your rights.